APRIL 23RD, 2016 | #GEMCLUBWEDDING
Our wedding day. This day meant so much to me and I wanted to take a moment (or several) to share why. I realize it's a bit long-winded but it's important to me so here we go...
Before getting engaged, Travis and I had countless conversations about marriage in general but also what that looked like specifically to us; how our past influenced its meaning. It goes back to when I told Travis that we were going to have a baby. I remember being in his car that night in September. We were driving back from a Sigur Ros show, sitting in traffic, and I had just told him the news. We immediately knew that this didn't mean we had to suddenly fall in love or even marry each other. He never shamed me. That night, Travis promised to me that no matter where we stood in our relationship, he would always be there to take care of our child and be there for [her] no matter what. We decided that we would continue to date, get to know each other and see if we could love one another. Six weeks later, we said "I love you" for the first time.
We endured making those hard phone calls to our families and facing initial disappointment followed by total support. We endured hearing countless opinions about how our decisions affect those around us-- how we made everyone else feel. We were having a baby. Our choices affected us the most. We got through that while going through the growing pains of dating each other as we prepared for parenthood. The hardest thing either of us have ever done.
The conversations about marriage continued. It was something we would revisit every so often but at a certain point, those conversations became more frequent. I know I truly loved Travis and not because he's our daughter's father. I knew I loved him and not because I was supposed to. I knew I wanted to get married to him and not because that would make our family whole or "right". I knew I wanted to be his wife and not because I needed the government to recognize our union as legal. I knew I wanted to be his bride and not because I needed to wear a white dress. We both knew that our love had weathered more than what most newlyweds do with a few years of marriage under their belts. Living together was the best decision for us. For the family we were starting. For our daughter, Gemma. Experiencing the ups and downs financially. Being homeowners. Juggling social lives. Balancing work. Taking care of ourselves and each other. We know hardship so well, but we also know great joy and love.
We both wanted a wedding to celebrate our commitment to each other beyond Gemma since that had already been established before she was born. This was about Travis and me. This day was about us saying vows with our lips that we had already said in our minds and hearts. This day was ours. We didn't have to share it with anyone. We didn't need to do it to appease anyone. We celebrated the way we wanted with our closest friends and family in a very intimate setting. That day meant so much to us. We had so many friends use their time and resources to make this day happen and we can't begin to thank them all enough.
While we had over a year to plan, everything that could possibly go wrong...well, did. And we planned most of this wedding in two weeks. TWO WEEKS. Makes me want to cry just thinking about it.
In the end, it all went the way it was supposed to since that's usually the case in life. This day was our kind of perfect.
Photography: Austin Gros; Venue: Long Hollow Gardens & Nursery; Videographer: The Heart Behind It by Rachel Ashley; Florals: FLWR Shop; Wedding Gown: Sarah Seven from The Dress Theory; Shoes:Madewell; Reception Dress: BHLDN; Hair + Makeup: Amanda Gros; Groom's Suit: Zara + J.Crew; Engagement Ring: AJ Martins; Wedding Bands: Consider the Wldflwrs; Bridesmaids dresses: ASOS; Cake: Milkglass Baking Co.; Rentals: Liberty Party Rental; Chef: Savannah Wright; Coordinator & Event Stylist: Patty Meredith; Decor: Natalie Hosselton; Calligraphy/Graphic Design: Megan Towle; Officiant: Edwin Ortiz; Music: Foreign Fields; DJ: Abigail Wright; Favors: Dana Yetton of Miles Honey + Joy Yetton/Kelsea Yetton.